When you understand clearly what your gifts are, as well as where your challenges lie, you can experience the refreshing honesty and clarity this provides- once you know it’s the same for everyone. Often children and adults feel this extreme isolation, brought about by the erroneous thinking that they are “the only ones” who have this much difficulty with a particular challenge. When you believe this, you have a strong sense of shame that begins to erode and corrupt your learning process. I believe the learning process is meant to be a grand, joyful experiment at the buffet of life- with all its countless, fascinating subjects.
If you are encountering road blocks to this enjoyment because of a challenge you particularly have, you will typically go into avoidance behavior or negative self-talk regarding your native intelligence. But what if you knew that these challenges are a normal part of life, and that there is always help along the way, and that there is no shame in needing help. What if you knew this deeply and matter-of-factly and you didn’t have to convince yourself? You would potentially be empowered to pursue many more areas of interest with much more hope and optimism than people usually have in those situations. You would not only believe in yourself, you would believe in others.
If you are ranking yourself and basing your sense of self on being good at something and are overly self-congratulatory about your gifts, you will eventually encounter someone whose gift is stronger than your own. This could cause you to feel great self-doubt or shake your belief in yourself. What if you knew that everyone has their own gifts and what if you had learned to acknowledge others’ abilities without any sense of comparison or jealousy? What if you honored your own gifts as “gifts” that you were given at birth, and realized that they are not something that you deserved or earned? You would potentially have a humble and true sense of your abilities along a continuum. You would see your gifts as ever- evolving opportunities to exercise for the pure sake of creativity, and ultimately, as a valued contribution when they are shared with others.How would this change our children, our schools, our society?